What is Friendship?

I have a friend who lost everything. I mean everything. His business, marriage and his apartment. I believe he lives out of his car now and he has been living this way for years.

Most of his wounds were self-inflected. He spent too much, was too arrogant and lost a lot of people’s money in a business deal that went south.  Now as a result, he is totally alone and on his own. His father passed away and the rest of his family lives overseas, so he no longer has a support system he can count on. He still lives in the N.Y.C. area, which is one of the most expensive places in the world to live, because he wants to stay close to his daughter.

He and I grew up together in N.Y.C.  Most of his closest friends still live there and most of them are financially well off.  Some even have multiple homes. Yet, nobody offers him a place to stay. Most of them know his situation, and from what I can gather, not one of them has offered to take him in.

His predicament got me thinking long and hard about what it means to be a friend. Is a friend just someone who we have a lot in common with and talk to frequently, or does it mean something more?

The city we grew up in is very liberal. There are numerous charities and programs to help the less fortunate. In fact, most of the people in our social circles give lots of money to charity and think of themselves as good people. And yet, when faced with actually doing something personal, like allowing him to stay in their homes, they all have punted. I think their actions say a lot about who they are.

Yet, I don’t believe their actions are any different than what most people’s would be under similar circumstances.

I believe that a true friend is someone that borders close to what we call family. Someone who would give the short off their back for you. The Japanese definition of friendship is likely the appropriate one. They have a term, kenzoku, which translated literally means “family.” The connotation suggests a bond between people who’ve made a similar commitment and who therefore share a similar destiny. It implies the presence of the deepest connection of friendship, of lives lived as comrades from the distant past. 

There is an interesting video in France wherein a reporter asks people on the street about the immigration crisis, the lack of housing and the effect it is having on the nation. Most of the citizens are quite welcoming of the immigrants. When asked if they would be willing to open their homes to them they all responded positively; yet, when presented with an actual immigrant who needs their help, they all decline. Check out the video to see what I mean.

The video is great at pointing out the fallacies and foibles of we humans. You see, we all tend to think of ourselves as humane, noble and kind; but, when truly given the opportunity to act in such a manner we decline. It is easier to give lip service than to actually be noble.

I know I’m no different and this pains me. Their are, however, exceptions. My wife used to pick up kids from the street in Ecuador and have them eat in her house. She has changed diapers and bed pans for the old and infirm.  I also have witnessed a friend of mine who, after divorce, took in her ex-spouses elderly relative to live with her. I am not sure I would have the spirit of heart to do something like that but she did. When measured against these people, I truly fall short.

This leads me back to my original question of what does it mean to be a friend? If we are only going to be there for the good times…the laughs… and only for the occasional inconvenience what is the point? Why have friends at all?

The fear of abandonment and failure scares us all. The Huffington Post ran an article that 70% of all Americans fear being homeless. The fear is real and felt by many. Yet, within my close circle of friends, we know someone who is homeless and nothing is being done. This is a tragedy. Its what’s underlying the despair and fear so many feel because we know if we ended up in his same predicament there would be no help. My friend now knows that he is on his own and must fend for himself. The tragedy is that all his friends know it too.

Steve

sleeclark@gmail.com

 

 

Soccer Hacks & Life Hacks

My daughters play soccer. I used to hate the sport until I saw what it teaches about life.

My girls aren’t big or fast but they are super tricky with the ball. A coach once watched them play and asked me, “Where are they from? They don’t play like Americans.” He knew by their style of play that they were playing at a deeper level. When I told him that my wife was Ecuadorian he said, “Ah, that explains it. The Latino players know how to feel the game.”

That coach was from Spain. He told me it is always easy for him to spot these types of players. His theory is that Americans know the game and can play the game well. They are just too mechanical. To the contrary, Latin players play with spirit and tend to look for the angles and tricks to make the game easier. “Soccer is not a game only of mechanics but of spirit as well.” The same way any musician can play a melody yet a song only takes on true power once the spirit is involved.

My girls play with spirit.

The spirit is what invokes joy of the game and an understanding of where the ball is going. Having been around athletics all my life, I have come to realize how two players in a sport with equal ability and talent can learn the game; yet one person “will get the game” while the other won’t. The issue is not one of merely skill but of being open to allowing the spirit to flow. Being open requires both suffering and expression but along with them comes understanding.

My daughters have a move called the nutmeg where you pass the ball through the other person’s legs. It requires astuteness and an understanding of how the opposing player moves and defends. Most advanced players know the nutmeg but few use it. My daughters use that move at least once a game. For the opposing player, it is quite embarrassing to have a ball pass through their legs. However, once it is successfully done, the player who has watched that ball travel right through their legs knows she has been outclassed and will tend play more timidly. It takes a lot of time to learn the nutmeg but, once mastered, it is devastating because it goes represents a sublime comprehension of the game.

In my own life, I have witnessed the phenomena of studying something and never getting it. When I first started training in Aikido, there was a brown belt who had trained and studied for years but never advanced.  Ten years later, I was awarded my black belt before he reached the same level. Why? He understood all the techniques and could execute them proficiently but, at its core, he never truly understood Aikido.  Aikido is really about blending your energy with your attacker’s energy and redirecting that it all. In Aikido, if you are too severe with your techniques, you become immovable. If too soft the moves don’t work. So Aikido is learned “between the space” of hard and soft. You have to go into that space to learn it.

Here’s an example. I trained with a man named Andy. His techniques were so hard that he was essentially immovable. When I trained with him it was like being in a wrestling match to the death! One particular day, we trained together with a very senior student who broke Andy’s wrist and arm when Andy tried to out-muscle him. The senior student broke Andy’s arm  because Andy left him no other alternative. Andy’s Aikido was so rigid and strong that in the end he broke his own bones.  Had he been lighter and more flexible…more willing to blend with his opponent… he would not have suffered such devastating injuries. He got hurt because he was unable to become soft and vulnerable.

Most the activities that I have tried to become proficient in have involved learning the mechanics of the trade but also understanding the spirit of the endeavor. I’ve begun writing regularly. The only real traction I get is when I write something that stems from some type of deep insight. Yet to write anything that evokes insight takes years of reading and studying to understand the depth of realization. In the book ” One Hundred Years of Solitude” by Gabriel Garcia Marquez’s  the author conveys that writing is mystical and sublime in nature. The book revolves around a family in Latin America and its multiple generations.  Marquez is able to capture and explain the magical realism of Latin life in a way that seems true to life. Having spent many summers in Ecuador, I can assure you that belief in the mystical is quite real in South America.

The book is able to explain and connect with readers in ways that few books can. Had Marquez been too timid to write about the spirit and mysticism that many Latinos feel, his words would have had the profound and vast impact that it has. Many Westerners mock and laugh at this way of looking at life. While I am sure Marquez knew this he pressed on anyway risking scorn and ridicule.

All of life requires risk whether it be personal, recreational or professional. Many people spend the time to master the task while only a select few take the great leap of surrender, vulnerability and trust and to become great. A simple turtle can live its entire life in its shell but in order to move, walk, eat and procreate it needs to literally “risk it’s neck” to survive and prosper. We humans are no less obligated.

sleeclark@gmail.com

Obama’s Redistribution Of Wealth

Want to know how Wall Street and the select few got rich and keep getting richer? Well, in a new book out this coming week titled The Chickenshit Club by veteran financial reporter Jesse Eisinger (highlighted by the Huffington Post…hardly a bastion of conservative news) Eisinger details the cowardice and/or sheer incompetence of the Obama Justice Department to go after the real abuses by corporate America following the 2008 meltdown. Its the ultimate redistribution of wealth…Obama style. Read the full article here:

 

How To Stop The Russians

The Russians hacked the DNC. They also played the Trump campaign. What is going on here is beyond obvious. Yet our partisanship is blinding us to the Russian infiltration of our political process. This is exactly what the Russians want.

The Russians want internal fighting. They are fomenting conflict and uncertainty. They want to foster mistrust between and among Americans. They want chaos. They are masters of disinformation. They have perfected it over decades, if not longer, within their own political system and culture. They bred out religion. They fed totalitarian techniques through fear to bring the populace under centralized governmental control. Its what they are aiming for here.

We Americans, in our lack of experience with such subversive tactics, are sheepishly and all too willingly cooperating with the Russian agenda. It is no coincidence that immigrants from formerly Communist and Socialist countries identify exactly what is happening. They know because they have been there, wherever their particular “there” was, and they made it their mission to get here! Here, to the United States. However, instead of banding together to stop this silent and subversive invasion, we are at each other’s throats, feeding the hatred and fear that emboldens and sustains the invader’s agenda.

I know many on the Left who believe that this country has been the bane of the world’s existence through efforts to manipulate, dominate and control other nations. They also believe that in so doing we have caused the death of millions, if not hundreds of millions, around the world. This is what drives them, their disdain for our apparent greed and disregard for others with different cultures, as well as our similar disregard for the planet. I also know many on the Right believe who the United States is all that is good and true in the world and that we are the most charitable nation on the planet. The home of liberty and the benefits of capitalism for the many, both here and around the world.

There is some truth in both beliefs just as there are self-serving agendas in both. These opposite perspectives are each right and are each wrong, at different times and on different issues. However, while fully acknowledging our shortcomings and mistakes, this experiment in human freedom and its resulting advances are unprecedented in human history. It should be what binds us to one another and causes us to support and defend the perpetuation of the nation…not what sets us at each other’s throats.

In our current state of rabid blindness, we are failing to see that we have never produced what our adversaries have. We have never provided the cultural and political petri dish to grow a Stalin, Lenin, Hitler, Mussolini, Fidel Castro, Marx, Mugabe, Kim Jung II, Kim II, Idi Amin, Hirohito, Brezhnev, Chiang Kia-shek, Kaiser Wilhelm, Ho Chi Min, Saddam Hussein, Czar Nicholas II or a host of others.  So, before we jump to praise the attributes and benefits of our adversaries and their forms of governance thereby committing national suicide by a thousand internal cuts, perhaps we should find more of what we Americans have in common.

Perhaps we need to stop hating our differences and understand that independence of thought is the ultimate diversity. Through the give and take of opposing ideas is how, and where, we come to find otherwise undetectable truths.

Unless we wake up now and identify real adversaries, who present a clear and present danger, we will soon be their slaves. Then, in hindsight, our petty infighting will be revealed for what it truly was, the tool and end product of evil.

Russia is within our media, our culture, our government and our institutions. North Korea is on the verge (or already capable) of delivering an EMP on the warhead of a ballistic missile that will destroy our power grid and cause the death of millions through panic, starvation and loss of emergency services.  Do you think the Chinese aren’t readying themselves for conflict?

The answer and the cure is not more hatred. It’s more understanding. Perhaps we need to reevaluate and re-prioritize what we value. Find common ground that matters. Universal healthcare or Donald Trump Jr.’s meeting calendar won’t be our top priorities in a Gulag or North Korean prison camp.

Loneliness and Virtual Reality

In N.Y.C. its not uncommon to live alone. I know because I lived there for many years.

The city is packed with people but many of them live lonely lives. In apartments and condos, its not uncommon for 40% or more of the residents to be single and living alone. Its understandable, since most apartments in N.Y.C. are 1 or 2 bedrooms. People who want to build a family inevitably move out. So, those remaining are single and live solitary lives.

I always thought this problem was more prevalent in N.Y.C. but Japan has struggled with the problem of solitude and loneliness for quite some time. “Nearly 1 in 4 men and 1 in 7 women in Japan were yet to be married at age 50 in 2015 in a clear sign that Japanese are increasingly shying away from tying the knot.”

It’s almost the result of the age in which we live. Although we have created many more ways for people to connect loneliness has actually increased. In the West, cultural markers such as marriage and birth rates are steadily in decline. Its as if, on some level, we’ve given up. Yet, as if that thought was not disturbing enough, I think things are going to get worse.  The advent of virtual reality, combined with porn, is a deadly and self-destructive mix. It will wreak havoc on relationships as well as how we function as a society.

Delivering porn by way of virtual reality will enable people to have entirely new experiences all within the confines of their mind. Human contact will no longer be needed. The virtual porn experience will be able to meet all of an individual’s sexual expectations.

The way virtual reality works is similar to the way visualization works. Part of the reason elite athletes use visualization is because they know that the brain has a hard time differentiating between something imagined and something real. Listen closely when a runner is interviewed following a winning race. He or she tends to say things like “the race went just like I envisioned it would.”  Visualization techniques are powerful; yet, they pale in comparison to what virtual reality can do to the mind.

This combination of porn and virtual reality will be the equivalent of a nuclear blast that will destroy whatever remains of the best of our culture. Even the medical field has begun to look at the damages of pornography. Dr. Judith Reisman called porn an “erototoxin,” theorizing that the brain itself might be damaged while watching porn. She speculated that future brain studies would reveal that the surge of neurochemicals and hormones released when someone watches porn has measurably negative effects on the brain.

When a reporter from Mashable went to test out a virtual reality clip from a porn distribution company, this is what he had to say: “Even though I was conscious that the two porn stars weren’t actually there and that the guy’s body wasn’t really mine, I still thought they were real. [emphasis added]. The more the porn girls jiggled their breasts in my face and rubbed their butts against me, the more I internalized being the VR porn guy. I felt my face get flushed as they showed me their, ahem, skills. Things got really weird, that’s all I’m going to say. I’m an advocate for all new technologies that push video mediums to the next level, and after trying out VR porn, I don’t think anyone who experiences it will be able to go back to 2D porn. It’s that realistic.”

Oddly enough the topic of addiction and the damage that virtual reality can inflict was explored in the 90’s film Strange Days where people bought and sold illegal virtual reality tapes of sex, murder, and rape with some of the tapes being so toxic that they had the ability to “fry” the brain. The lead character, played by Ralph Fiennes, spends countless hours reliving the sexual encounters with his former girlfriend, perfectly mirroring the behavior and mannerisms exhibited by a drug addict forever needing to get a fix. It is amazing to realize that a film so prescient was created before virtual reality was developed yet addresses the moral implications and destructive effects of the misuse of technology.

I am a firm believer that what most plagues our culture today is the destruction of the nuclear family. With the proliferation of virtual reality porn, whatever remnant of the nuclear family remains will be finally destroyed. Many males will elect to completely drop out of relationships, and therefore society, addicted to the thrill-on-demand of subservient and compliant virtual “women.”  (The data shows the majority of porn viewers are men.)

The widespread solitude and loneliness that is now so prevalent in our society will grow exponentially as people have the option, via their v.r. devises, to opt out of the complexities, demands and responsibilities attendant to human interaction. What will be gained is technologically-induced self-gratification. What will be lost is our humanity. As a former Wall Street trader, it seems like a bad trade.

Steve

sleeclark@gmail.com

 

Thank You, Barack Obama

Forty three million U.S. citizens knew who Donald Trump was when they voted for him in November 2016. All of them knew he was a builder, a reality TV star, prone to gross exaggeration and an ego-maniac who needed his name on everything. They voted for him anyway. Why?

Its physics. When a pendulum swings so far in one direction it will come back with an equal force in the opposite direction. Barack Obama set the stage and guaranteed the win for Donald Trump.

The nation had just experienced eight years of a buttoned down, smooth, always controlled, gifted (on prompter) orator who had overseen a nation in social, economic and foreign policy decline…all the while playing golf and waxing eloquent on how good things were. Well, they were not good for most of the population and we knew it in our pocketbook and our gut.

The persona of Barack Obama assured that we lost our taste for appearances. We had bought the promise of hope and change because it was delivered by a slick package that looked like the ultimate American Dream come true. But looks can be deceiving. Behind the suave exterior were crippling domestic policies, disastrous foreign policies, and a stunning disconnect from the experiences most Americans were having.

When Donald Trump stepped onto the national political stage our options narrowed. He was a refreshing but dangerous change. We were so eager to be refreshed we ignored the danger. One ignores danger at one’s peril. A nation is no less at risk from such ignorance than is an individual.

As a former Democrat turned Independent, I am not unhappy with some of the policy changes being implemented by President Trump. I have great comfort in the appointment of Justice Gorsich to the Supreme Court. I do think a temporary travel ban is called for until a secure vetting process can stop what has obviously overrun Europe due to the lack of one. The more federal regulations that can be removed from around the necks of private industry, particularly small businesses, the better.

But my happiness is tempered by the fact that I find his behavior sad and troubling.

When the Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky fiasco was playing out, my daughter was beginning grade school. I remember having to monitor what I listened to on the car radio for fear that she would be exposed to yet another conversation about the President and oral (or other variations on) sex. At that time, and ever since, my thoughts on the matter have been that regardless of whatever good Clinton may have done for the economy or foreign policy, they were far outweighed by his total lack of respect for the Office of the Presidency and the pit of smut and filth into which he had dragged the culture.

We are at such a moment.

While many are upset that this President lies, I am not. They all lie. I wish they did not, but they do. The fact that this President does it with impunity without regard for illusion is, one could argue, more honest than trying to make the lies seem true…which is what Presidents routinely do.

What I find dangerous is that President Trump is modeling behavior that makes it acceptable to get even. It is behavior most commonly found on grammar school play grounds or in college fraternity houses. It is low level consciousness behavior. It is the path of force taken by someone who lacks an understanding of power vs. force.

True power brings restraint. It is the knowledge that non-action can be the most effective use of energy. It is Martin Luther King’s approach to hatred and bigotry vs Malcolm X’s. True power minimizes the need for reactive behavior. It chooses its moment to respond with discernment and is not provoked by foolishness into premature and futile acts.

I do not know if President Trump is employing some sort of deliberate strategy by being in a battle with the press (and others). Even if it’s conscious, deliberate and helpful to him in 2020…it is harmful to the forty three million Americans who voted for him and for the millions who did not. It is bad for the nation.

This vindictive behavior adds fuel to an already blazing fire of division that has engulfed the country. It legitimizes petty and harmful acts to our youth who look for leaders and role models to emulate. It is caveman behavior lacking reason and higher ground, problem solving processes. It is beneath the office that our President serves but it is also beneath the most modest levels of civility. Mr. President, let them implode while you rise to the position with which we entrusted you.

No one should be precluded from self-defense. But when you are a graduate of the most respected business school in the nation, a self-made million or billionaire, the most powerful man in the world, surrounded 24/7 by the most elite protection force in the world, with the codes to nuclear war, literally, at your fingertips… yet you cannot seem to remember that “sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me”…then perhaps someone else should be carrying that suitcase with the codes.

Carole contact@carolegold.com

Amazon on Steroids

If Amazon was a country, the U.S would place trade restrictions on it for illegal dumping. Illegal dumping in trade occurs “when manufacturers export a product to another country at a price either below the price charged in its home market or below its cost of production.”

We permit Amazon to do what other countries are denied the right to do: dump their products into the U.S. Why? Because it would kill many of our industries. Often times, foreign companies receive massive assistance from their governments. One example, Airbus in Europe is subsidized by government funds which helps it stay competitive with Boeing. If we allowed these private/state owned companies to operate freely here in the U.S, domestic companies would not be able to compete.

Amazon is not owned by the government; however, due to the nature of capital markets, it has massive advantages over its competitors. The genesis of this advantage stems from the banking  crisis in 2008.

During 2008, many banks were shut down and/or merged. As part of the bailout and mergers, terms set by the Federal government barred banks from continuing to carry risky assets on their balance sheets. Then, the Federal Reserve infused the banks with billions of dollar in bailout money. The regulations put in place restricting trading by banks while loading them with money, caused the banks to begin buying and investing in things that were “government approved.” The banks bought billions of dollars in government bonds and other “approved investments” that would not raise the ire of the federal regulators.

What happened as a result?

Many legitimate small businesses and startups were frozen out. Why lend one million dollars to a startup if the regulators were going to complain? So the banks stopped lending to smaller firms and only invested in “sure things.” Asset managers and fund managers figured out the game and started mimicking what the banks were buying, thus only buying the safest and surest of investments.

Enter Amazon.

Recognizing that it had the opportunity to raise billions of dollars, Jeff Bezos went on a buying spree…buying out Amazon’s competitors and making massive investment in its infrastructure. It wasn’t that Amazon was making a ton of money. It wasn’t. What it had was access to the capital markets, something its competitors did not have.

Infused with cash, Amazon kept on tightening its profit margins lower and lower which was effective in driving its competitors out of business. Amazon is literally killing the retail industry and the malls that support those retailers. Malls across America are dying and some analysts have estimated that 50% of all malls will be closed within ten years.

Here’s the point. Many of these retailers are small business owners and have no access to the capital markets and, therefore, must make a profit.  In contrast Amazon, which has access to billions of dollars of capital, is not pressured to make any money and so lowers its margins to the point where it freezes out its competitors.  As stated earlier, the U.S. would never allow a country to operate so brazenly knowing the goal to be crushing domestic competition in order to make more money and monopolize the industry. But the rules appear to be different for Bezos and Amazon.

Larry Kudlow once said “profits are the mothers milk of all business” yet we obviously live in a time where the rules no longer apply. At some point this anomaly that allows Amazon to operate on minuscule margins with access to unlimited capital will end. The market will turn rational at some point and demand a return on the billions that was invested into Amazon. However, by that point, all serious competitors to Amazon will have been wiped out and it will be free to charge you whatever it wants.

I am a capitalist and a libertarian at heart; but what Amazon is doing is mercenary and illegal…or needs to be. Amazon is skirting the laws barring monopolies and participating in the perversion of our current capital markets, which have not been fixed since the 2008 crisis.  Amazon should be reigned in and broken up before its too late. We are literally letting one company destroy the fabric of our economy by rapidly destroying the retail industry in order to assure its own survival.

Many Amazon supporters claim that Walmart was guilty of many of the same things that Amazon is doing. I disagree. Sam Walton started with one store, limited access to capital and built has empire one store at a time. His success was based on profits and reinvesting those profits back into his company to buy more stores.

What Walton did was something available and accessible to all Americans. He had no special advantage or received no special treatment. Amazon currently has an advantage shared by only a handful of companies: unlimited access to capital. With this advantage, those few are literally laying waste to the American retailer and, to a greater extent, the personal liberty and equality of access inherent in free market choices.

Steve

sleeclark@gmail.com

 

 

Conversation- The Lost Art

We have destroyed a five thousand year old tradition. For all that time, we humans passed along information through conversations among ourselves and within groups whether those groups were a tribe, town, neighborhood, school, family gathering or the dinner table. In the West, that’s over. Discourse and conversations, if they can even be termed that, now happen through advanced technology and digital media. Human to human exchange is gone..replaced with human to human by way of digital media and rapidly evolving technology.And yet, with all of the digital media content out there, radio and podcasts still have a massive grip on the consumer. Why? Because we’re HUMAN and the spoken word with its corresponding human emotion will always hold our attention. Its how we’re wired.

The longevity of radio is a testament to the power of words as well as the ability to educate and entertain. Some of the highest paid entertainers and talk show hosts in the world are on radio. The incomes of Howard Stern, Rush Limbaugh and Glenn Beck verify this fact.

In some ways this result is odd because people on television have a huge advantage over radio due to better distribution systems, higher production quality and larger staffing. Yet they can barely hold on. Further, they have the ability to use and manipulate their audience with images. None-the-less, those “celebrities” or media darlings still can’t command the size audience that a great radio show can. Rachel Maddow is one of the highest rated cable TV shows, with an audience of four million viewers and the power of NBC behind her. Yet Rush Limbaugh, essentially a one man show, consistently pulls in over 25 million listeners a week.

A radio host has only his or her words to convey their message. Because of this, radio hosts are forced to be concise, clear and on-point at all times. In radio all faults, foibles and illogical statements are exposed as they occur. Radio hosts debate listeners and adversaries alike to get their point across which is why only the best speakers thrive in such an unforgiving medium.

Both of us listen to talk radio, especially Conservative talk radio.  We see why so many of the hosts are successful. They have the ability to converse, influence and explain very complicated matters in easy-to-understand terms. At first glance it  appears they are uniquely qualified to speak on these matters or have some special talent that allows them to.  The reality is that most benefit from having had a family structure where conversation and discourse was encouraged and enforced.

Take the case of Rush Limbaugh. He was an unremarkable student in the lower grades and did not go to college. He does not have a law, or any other, advanced degree. Even his employment history leaves a lot to be desired. For the most part, he had mid-to-low-level jobs at which he toiled for years. What Limbaugh did have was a stable family and an inquisitive father who took the time to educate his children. His father was a lawyer and judge.  Meal times were a family affair where hour long conversations about politics took place. His father would discuss many of the cases he worked on and how those cases, and their outcomes, related to society at-large. Civics, history and Constitutional Law were common topics of conversation and were so detailed that Limbaugh felt he received the best education just sitting at home! Although he was not academically gifted, what he did have was a love of radio and the ability to speak well. His ability to make an argument, explain the basis for his position and defend his ideas were challenged and refined every day of his youth at the dinner table.

Michael Savage is another example. A radio host with a vast following, Savage has said on numerous occasions that his time around the dinner table is what trained him for his career in radio. Although he has multiple degrees and is highly educated, Savage says that what fine-tuned his views on life were the hours spent with his mother.  She was a Russian immigrant who would gather with other women from the community and talk well into the night. As a child, Savage was not excused from these gatherings but instead was “forced” to hear them every night. These conversations helped shape him and his ability to critically think. He began to understand and view America from the eyes of immigrants: the hopes and dreams of what the United States offered from their perspective. A window into the world that other Americans could never understand.

Think about it. Two of the most influential men in radio and political analysis got the majority of their training around a dinner table! Not through textbooks, universities or television. Such is the power of family and spending time together engaged in meaningful and thoughtful conversation in a safe but challenging environment.

Today, as a father of six, I (Steve) know my kids benefit immensely from hearing my wife’s stories about growing up in South America. Latinos have a vivid way of speaking that sparks the imagination. Their stories are imbued with faith and mysticism.  I’ve worked in sales but my wife can tell a story much better than I ever could! I thank God our kids are reaping the rewards of hearing and seeing this county (as did Savage) through the eyes of an immigrant whose stories drive home   the truly extraordinary possibilities and benefits available here that can be found nowhere else.

As a mother, lawyer and former talk radio host, I (Carole) was raised in a home such as were both Limbaugh and Savage. Our dinner table was where heated and diverse opinions were shared and challenged. I learned early on to think critically and to be articulate if I hoped to be taken seriously. In many ways, it was the foundational training ground I needed to go on to both the practice of law and talk radio.

The technological advances have helped our children in many ways. But those raised with it, in the absence of sufficient human interaction, will be the first generation educated primarily by a digital medium rather than the spoken word. Our world has always been shaped by ideas. As a culture, we tend to move in the direction of the ones that are most convincing  not necessarily best.

In the recently released book, “Stealing Fire” authors Stephen Kotler and Jamie Wheal analyze “The Flow…that part of the brain where creative problem solving resides. Whether using meditation, prayer or drugs (Silicon Valley execs are now daily taking LSD and mescaline to enhance flow), time spent in that state exponentially enhances, by as much as 500%, creative thinking; but, it also shuts down the prefrontal cortex where critical thinking occurs. Since the power of great oratory has the ability to also move the masses into the flow (think Jesus, Hitler, Martin Luther King) it simultaneously causes critical thinking to shut down…which is why oratory must be accompanied by an intent to do good by the speaker as well as be critically evaluated by the listener.

It isn’t that our future will not be peppered with great orators. The danger lies in the capacity and developed ability of generations, raised without the benefits of intellectually challenging family life and reduced human interaction, to be able to discern between a well-intentioned leader and a despot.

sleeclark@gmail.com   contact@carolegold.com

These Truths Are Self Evident

In Catholicism we believe in certain truths. These truths define our faith.

In fact, at every mass we recite The Apostle’s Creed  which lays out the tenants of our faith: “I believe in God, the Father Almighty…” Each time we go to mass we reaffirm this belief. Given what we know today by way of breakthroughs in technology and science, many critics scoff at this creed finding that it refers to a time when life was more simple. It is therefore ironic that while many Liberals and Progressives mock the Church for its stands and its creeds, the Left has its own creed. It’s just packaged differently. This whole notion of creeds came to my attention when a friend of mine blasted this out to all of his email contacts:

  1. If you believe that tax cuts for the rich benefit the poor or middle class, please de-friend me.
  2. If you have less than $15 million in net worth and still call the estate tax the “death tax”, please de-friend me.
  3. If you don’t believe the earth is warming due to greenhouse gases, please de-friend me.
  4. If you believe everyone in the USA should have health insurance, please de-friend me.

It was a fairly aggressive stance.  He was saying that if you don’t believe what I believe then we should no longer be friends. Imagine if a Catholic lay person sent this out to his friends! I can hardly imagine the scope of rebuke and criticism.

You see this list that my friend sent out is part of the “Leftist Creed.”  The difference in creeds is that the Catholic one is inspired by God and deals with the relevancy of God presence in our lives; the Left’s creed is created by man as the foundation and pillar of government as its basis and support system.

For Catholics, the creed is a statement of faith, hope and our undying faith in Christ. Something greater than us. For the Left, faith and hope are placed in the bureaucracy of government: the belief that government is good and has the power to alleviate suffering.

I harbor no allusions regarding government. I detest and loath it. I am an American with strong Latino roots. Latinos know all too well from experience how corrupt politicians are. Just look at Venezuela, Ecuador and Cuba. This distrust of all things related to politics is quite common in Latin America. Less so here in the states. Barack Obama and FDR are two politicians who come to mind, both of who governed and believed that the power of the State could solve all of society’s ills.

Given my friend’s myopic belief in the Leftist Creed, he is willing to forgo friendships over it.  I wanted to address his points, if not with him directly then here.

  •  Taxes: The State and the establishment (teachers, media, etc.) always take the high ground, arguing over the moral correctness of paying taxes. They habitually sight the worst case alternatives when arguing for higher taxes. The homeless mother who would live on the streets if not for government housing; the lunch program for children who would otherwise starve. By claiming the high ground, all others who don’t pay their fair share are labeled as “cheats” and “tax evaders.” For me, taxes are government sanctioned theft. The State is claiming a right to your wages simply because you live here. Theft is to take someone’s property against his will, i.e., by force or fraud. If I don’t pay my taxes, I will end up in jail. How is that any different than being robbed by a mugger who will harm or kill me if I don’t turn over my wallet? In the first case, the Left argues my funds are being used to take care of the poor; but, how is that different than the robber who will using my funds for the same thing? The Left claims the high ground to coerce and manipulate people out of their money. It uses these arguments by saying government will allocate and distribute the money more efficiently and equitably than private institutions. In the end , all taxes do is fund government jobs and grows the State assuring the need for yet more taxpayer money.
  • Global Warming: There is this blatantly repeated mantra that the science on global warming is “settled.” When is anything in science settled? Consider these once settled items: the earth is flat, the planets revolve around earth and earth is the center of the universe. Remember, the question for the Left is not so much whether there is any warming but whether human activity is the major contributing factor to such warming. The fact is human beings do have an effect on the planet. And, yes we have done terrible things to it including the annihilation of numerous species. I would argue humans do have a big effect on climate change given all of our industrial production; but, so could a myriad of natural phenomena such as weather, solar flares, hurricanes, and/or earthquakes. There are other factors with greater magnitude and historically documented impact than what we humans can do. The threat of global warming/climate change disaster is about fear, manipulation and profit…all being used by the political class to collect more taxes and power to support their one-world, Socialist agenda.
  • Health Insurance:  I don’t think anything owes anybody anything. I can’t outsource my health. Its my personal responsibility to be mindful of  what I eat and maintain my body so that I don’t get sick. We have been conditioned and trained to run to doctors to cure us when, in reality, they should be in place to support disease prevention, not as station of last resort. For example, car insurance works because it supports the right behavior. If I need new tires or an oil change, I pay for it myself with many companies competing for my business. But if I get into an accident or cause major damage, I use my car insurance. Similarly, I would gladly pay for catastrophic health insurance that would only cover emergencies such as cancer; but, that option is not available here in the U.S.  Inexplicably, the Left was ecstatic over the passage of universal healthcare under Obama. They knew veterans have been covered by that plan for years and the V.A. is widely recognized as an total failure and abomination.  Had healthcare been allowed to evolve under free market principles, medical costs would have collapsed the same way the cost of televisions have collapsed as quality improving exponentially over time.

We all need basic principles and values to provide a framework for living our best lives. This is what a creed does. So, you can choose between a creed, such as the one I follow, that assures me of my inherent divinity as a child of God and worth His benevolent guiding hand or you can choose the Leftist Creed that assures you that without government intervention you are doomed to poverty and destruction of the planet.

Free Will. You choose.

 

Steve

sleeclark@gmail.com

An Amazon On The Loose

Where are Jeff Bezos and Amazon heading and why should it matter to you? Well, as if this quote from Bezos isn’t revealing and disturbing enough, read this entire article. Being silent in the face of infringement upon personal freedom is acquiescence and results in voluntary enslavement.

“Our goal with Amazon Prime, make no mistake, is to make sure that if you are not a Prime member you are being irresponsible.”  Jeff Bezos

READ HERE: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/americas-amazon-problem_us_59443b5be4b06bb7d2731cba?ncid=engmodushpmg00000004